In the beginning of the recovery journey, it is important to become aware of the primary focal points for the recovery process to ensure lasting recovery. In the dominant model, Alcoholic Anonymous, the primary focal points are unity, service and recovery. These focal points are intended to keep those in recovery grounded in the core principles while also bringing attention to maintaining tension between these three focal points. It is thought that a balance between these objectives bring some measure of assurance in lasting recovery.
The words unity, service and recovery when lived in a balanced tension with one another will bring forward a recovery lifestyle. This lifestyle will contain intimately connected relationship with other alcoholics (unity), a consistent practice of carrying the message to other people in recovery (service) and recovery through an ongoing self-reflection process through the 12 Steps of the program (recovery). However, for many people in recovery, especially those with some continuous sober time, these practices can become rote. So in addition to doing all of these actions, there must be an honest reflection about whether these practices feel alive or if they have become rote.
Beyond the practices mentioned and assessing the aliveness of them, it is important to cultivate relationships that the addict feels safe in being fully transparent. In AA, for some, this shared transparency will only occur in the sponsorship relationship. However, it is valuable to cultivate more than one relationship where absolute transparency feels safe, so that you have a network of support. It is also important to recognize that being fully transparent in all of your relationships is not necessarily healthy either. It is part of the recovery journey for many addicts to learn how much to disclose in each relationship according to the social context of the relationship.
Finally, the goal is for recovery to become a lifestyle. In the beginning, it can be overwhelming to take on so much change yet we must move towards these goals with daily actions. As time goes on, recovery needs to begin to feel like an integrated essence across all facets of our life rather than being a siloed compartment of our life. Yet, it takes time for this transformation to occur and it is imperative to support the addict with being focused on the goal while also gentle with the process.
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